Burly Mumma - The Role & Importance of being a Burlesque Mentor

Welcome to my first blog! How very exciting!

I've decided to do a once a week post about whatever it is I feel inspired to write about, whether it be about anything to do with burlesque (including costumes, poses, advice, etc), #realtalk about life, the universe and everything (get the reference?) interviews with some fabulous, inspiring people or recommendations about products I use, brands I love or people with skill sets I think you'd like to hear about.

If there's anything in particular you'd like me to blog about - give me a bell via my Contact Me page!

For this first post, I decided to go back to a post I made on Facebook nearly a year ago when it comes to the role of a Burly Mumma (aka, Burlesque Mother, Burly Mom, etc). Having taught burlesque since 2010, and then opening my burlesque school Bambina Burlesque Academy in 2014, as well as having taught professionally as a drama teacher in high schools, primary schools and as an adult educator since 2009, I understand how important the role of an educator is to society. A teacher does not just teach - they influence, inspire and help people to harness their students creativity. They shepard their students whilst helping them discover their true potential.

Because of this, how a teacher speaks, motivates and presents themselves to their students is hugely important. An unprofessional teacher, who says hurtful, potentially damaging things to their students shouldn't be an educator. Someone who is educating burly babies for their own personal gain or for self absorbed reasons shouldn't be an educator. A teacher educates because they feel compelled to help others. They genuinely care about educating the masses about their particular passion. They want to help others to grow, learn and develop. It's not a selfish need, it's a completely SELFLESS profession. Professionalism is paramount. It can take one snide comment, one off-handed, throw away line to completely derail a students emotional and physical well being. But, it can take one genuine comment, one beautifully positive moment of  time with a student to bring about a  profound difference to that particular persons emotional, physical and mental well being.

So, without further ado, here's my thoughts on what a Burly Mumma should and shouldn't do.

A True Burly Mumma does the following: 

- Nurture, support and help to develop each of their individual students talents. 
- Guides their students as a shepard. 
- Allows for their students to go to different courses, experience different dance styles without prejudice. 
- Goes and supports their burly babies when they perform in shows. 
- Congratulates them on their successes and helps them get back up when they fall of their sparkly horse. 
- Helps their students find their niche and style and works with them to develop it.
- Create and find opportunities for their babies to perform and grow.
- Build their students self confidence so they can learn to love and appreciate their individuality.

A Burly Mumma does not/shouldn't:

- Hold a student back by informing them they shouldn't try something new or explore different avenues.
- Be a dictator.
- Inform their students there is one way or the highway and that their way is the be all and end all.
- Doesn't support their babies in performing in other people's shows or even starting their own ones.
- Brings them down due to their own insecurities and undermines them. 
- Spits students out in blocks as sheep with no individual style or flair. 
- Makes students feel insecure about themselves. 
- Not allow for students to explore their horizons and try new classes lead by different teachers.
- take credit for their students talent.

I'm not perfect, I know - and other Burly Mummas, I'm sure you'd agree with what I've said. We need to help grow the next generation of Burly Babies and support and nurture them to become the burlesque stars they're born to be.

Lilly x